My boyfriend is a soldier in the United States Army. Understand that these guys have to deal with things that the average person couldn’t imagine.
Though I’m no stranger to military men (my grandfather, father and brother were all enlisted), this is the first time I have dated a soldier. I’ve seen a lot of websites that list ten things an Army girlfriend should remember and do, and some of them made great points. And your honey could be shipped out at any time, for months or years. Many of these are difficult and sometimes disturbing. If he wants to talk about his life in the Army, be it the crazy times with the guys in his unit, the tedium of the everyday, or even the tougher times, let him be the one to broach the subject.
They don’t sugar coat challenging circumstances, but they often look at things through the perspective of others, realizing that things aren’t always as bad as they seem.
Give the relationship at least a year before making plans for your future. Take your time to know whether this is the life that is right for both of you.
Surround yourself with supportive and positive people who see military life in a good light.
If you make the effort once in a while, then he can sit back, relax, and enjoy the evening you planned. However, in my experience, finding people who understand the trials and tribulations of being in a relationship with a soldier is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Needless to say, soldiers place a LOT of value on loyalty.Now, this does NOT mean you should boss him around.But he’ll probably appreciate it if you do a share of the date-planning.This could be military community members or civilians.Establishing friendships and good relationships with others will offer you the support you need to overcome the ups and downs of military life.